ACTUALISE FOR COUPLES
CHANGE THE HABIT OF A LIFETIME
& BUILD THE RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED
The blueprint for every relationship we ever have is created in our early years.
Based on the assumptions we make around our interactions with our primary caregivers, we develop ‘strategies of survival’ designed to ensure we are accepted, and therefore safe.
These strategies remain completely unconscious, silently controlling the quality of all of our relationships, forever…
Until we choose to wake up and take radical responsibility for our part.
“Working with Anastasia single handedly saved my marriage”
- Anonymous, TV writer, producer and mother of two
Welcome, my loves…
I imagine you are here because you are tired of the dynamic your relationship has become stuck in…
Maybe you are struggling to connect effectively and in a back and forth of blame and misunderstanding: you are stuck in patterns of behaviour in your relationship that you would like to break free from and begin to ‘see’ each other again.
Maybe you have been together a long time and lost some of the spark you once had.
Maybe you have decided it is the end of the road and would like to navigate your seperation mindfully, with kindness and grace - even in the face of hurt and fear of the unknown.
WHATEVER THE CHALLENGE
let me help you find a deeper awareness, break free from the past and reclaim the best parts of each other.
Before it’s too late.
ACTUALISE the RELATIONSHIP you CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE:
We all create false identities that we live by… Albert Einstein called them ‘the optical delusion of consciousness’.
These identities are NOT who we are but who we are shown we are by how others respond to us, very early on in our development. We adapt our choices and behaviours in response to these identities - because we believe it will make us acceptable, lovable and therefore safe.
These identities might, on the surface, appear to be positive: the ‘peacekeeper’ or the ‘caregiver / protector’ in the family for example… or they might be less complementary, such as ‘the black sheep’ or the ‘dramatic one’… either way, they come to dictate how we behave in relationship with others. Those celebrated for their perceived role in the family will come to play that role out in many aspects of their life, long into the future. Those shamed for their perceived identity or ‘role’ will react against it or shove it deep down into their subconscious mind creating what we call their ‘shadow self’, where it will become a self fulfilling prophesy without them even realising it. The peacekeeper will self abandon to please others and not rock the boat, never getting their needs or desires met and forever playing it safe, while the child labelled as ‘needy’ or ‘dramatic’ might shame themselves for feeling at all, to the point of numbing out with addiction or learning to ‘do it all alone’, shutting others out completely.
In short, we adapt ourselves and ignore our own instinctive needs to fulfil how the world tells us we ‘should’ be - creating strategies of behaving in relation to others that protect us from the thing we fear the most - abandonment.
We call these strategies ‘attachment patterns’, and by understanding them, and the stories we subconsciously tell ourselves, we can take our power back from past conditioning, becoming more autonomous in our own lives and relationships.
The good news? We can always rewrite these identities and form new attachment patterns, but we must first become aware of what our subconscious believes to be true, and show it another way.
The question is, are you ready to take radical responsibility for the state of your relationship - this one, or any others you may have in the future - so you can stop being the victim and start being the change you say you want to see in your world?
“This process is unlike any kind of therapy I have ever ventured… most left me more confused. We all want solutions to our problems with instant effect… and it IS possible!
Anastasia’s multi faceted practice helps you feel completely held whilst you mine together for what is presenting day to day.
This was the best value for money I have ever spent”
- Karima McAdams, Actor.
The Actualise Process For Couples is more than just coaching.
This is a transformational journey of discovery that combines neuroscience, somatic therapy, modern psychology and philosophy.
ACTUALISE isn’t about quick fixes or meeting superficial goals.
It’s about real, deep transformation that will change the trajectory of your lives - individually and together.
My intention for our time together is to guide each of you to:
identify the patterns and beliefs that have been creating the dynamic within your current relationship, and those of the past…
reconnect you both to your truest Selves, discover your deepest purpose and recommit to your path…
consciously make aligned, value driven decisions for the future - whether that be together or apart…
and re-introduce you to one another on a new, far deeper, more honest and more loving level.
Over 6 weeks we will identify the patterns and beliefs that have been writing the story of your relationship— and work through them via:
A bespoke combination of Personalized Couples Coaching and One-to-One Individual Sessions - tailored to your unique personal experiences and goals, either in a retreat setting or virtually.
We do this using these 4 pillars:
Identify: the beliefs, patterns and identities you have each been living by and how they have impacted your relationship
Clear: the old blocks, shifting the patterns, and releasing the triggers that impact how you react to and connect with your partner
Align: your actions and behaviours with your personal value system, designing a path forward, either together or apart.
Neurally reprogram: your subconscious mind to make the changes you desire, naturally and easy.
So you can have:
Experiential and Immediate Tangible Shifts: The work we do changes how you feel in real time, impacting how you relate to one another with immediate affect. Your relationship will begin to change from our very first session.
Powerful but Practical Tools for Transformation: Through practical exercises, neural visualisations, somatic psychology and mindset tools, you’ll learn how to rewrite your own internal narrative and create the style of attachment that supports successful relationships.
Ongoing Support and Accountability: Old habits can be sneaky and change can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone! You’ll have 24/7 support from Anastasia to keep you, and your relationship, on track.
NEXT STEPS
BOOK A 30 MINUTE CALL:
On this call ANASTASIA will begin the first step of The ACTUALISE Process.
Together you will begin to IDENTIFY the patterns playing out in your relationship and how they are creating
the dynamic you would like to change so you can make an appropriate plan of action.
So if...
Your relationship feels stuck in old patterns: You’re noticing repetitive cycles of blame or disconnection and you're ready to break free from them…
You’re going through a major challenge or transition: a new baby, shifting careers, a health crisis, shifting sense of ‘selves’ or an imminent separation…
You're craving a deeper connection with who you truly are as well as with each other….
You’re ready to heal past wounds: You recognise that old emotional patterns and unhelpful behaviours have prevented you from fully seeing each other or the partner you long to be…
You’re seeking clarity and confidence: You love each other but have forgotten who you are independently or why you were together in the first place…
You’re tired of feeling overwhelmed and under-appreciated: You are raising a family, paying the bills, taking care of the home and feel like it still isn’t ‘right’ or ‘enough’…
It is definitely time to do something you have never tried before!
You are in the right place… Let’s talk…
It takes radical responsibility to live a radically successful life.
What are you willing to do to be the change you want to see in your world?
- Anastasia Griffith -
